Category: Relationships

  • Healing Anxious Attachment Patterns to Create Space for Love

    Healing Anxious Attachment Patterns to Create Space for Love

    “Anxious attachment stems from a deep sense of inner instability where old wounds make people anticipate that they will be abandoned again and again.” ~Jessica Baum I have recently met the love of my life. Yay!!! He is the person I’ve been imagining for as long as I can remember, hoping and praying that one day…

  • Why You Don’t Need Many Friends to Be Happy

    Why You Don’t Need Many Friends to Be Happy

    “Introversion—along with its cousins sensitivity, seriousness, and shyness—is now a second-class personality trait, somewhere between a disappointment and a pathology.” ~Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking I’ll be honest, I don’t have many friends. And it’s something I’ve always felt a level of shame about. In fact, I…

  • The Closure in Accepting That They May Never Change

    The Closure in Accepting That They May Never Change

    “One of the hardest things I’ve had to understand is that closure comes from within. Especially difficult if you’ve been betrayed by someone you love because you feel like you gotta let them know the pain they caused, but the peace you seek can only be given to you by you.” ~Bruna Nessif Many years…

  • 5 Big Lessons I Learned After Losing a Legacy Friend

    5 Big Lessons I Learned After Losing a Legacy Friend

    “You can’t force anyone to value, respect, understand, or support you, but you can choose to spend your time around people who do.” ~Lori Deschene There’s a term in IT called “legacy systems.” These are computer systems that are ancient and abysmally outdated yet are kept around because organizations have centered some of their operations…

  • How to Break the Cycle of Painful, Dramatic Relationships

    How to Break the Cycle of Painful, Dramatic Relationships

    “No matter how far we come, our parents are always in us.” ~Brad Meltzer Had you asked me five years ago, before my healing and personal growth journey began, if my upbringing and childhood wounds were shaping the choices I was making in relationships, I would have scoffed at you and said, “No way. Are…

  • How Highly Sensitive People Can Feel More Fulfilled in Their Relationships

    How Highly Sensitive People Can Feel More Fulfilled in Their Relationships

    “Truth can be stated in a thousand different ways, yet each one can be true.” ~Swami Vivekananda Highly sensitive people naturally bring some really beautiful, love-promoting qualities to their romantic partnerships. But these same qualities can sometimes end up undermining the strength of their relationships. This was true for me in my first marriage and…

  • How to Overcome Relationship Conflict with the Internalized Other Practice

    How to Overcome Relationship Conflict with the Internalized Other Practice

    “You can only understand people if you feel them in yourself.” ~John Steinbeck In the early stages of my relationships, I spent a lot of time trying to figure out what the other person was thinking. Hours of pondering whether they liked me, over-analyzing every text message, and worrying that every fight meant it was…

  • How to Say No to Friends And Family (With Sample Statements)

    Saying ‘no’ can be one of the toughest, most unsavory tasks we undertake, especially when it’s directed towards the people who mean the most to us. You might grasp the imperative of safeguarding your time and energy – they’re finite resources, after all. Still, that comprehension can fade into the ether when you’re caught in…

  • How to Support Your Partner Through a Difficult Time

    It can often be harder seeing our partner go through difficult times than experiencing it ourselves. With difficult times come strong emotions. We can feel helpless in the face of these emotions and not know what to say or do that would help. There is a “magic sentence” you can use that will lovingly deepen…

  • How to Forgive Betrayal in Marriage and Move Forward

    Betrayal as defined by Merriam-Webster is a violation of a person’s trust or confidence, neglect of moral standards, and the revelation of a secret. Betrayal can happen between friends and families but the worst kind is when it shatters a marriage.[1] Unlike friends and families, you can’t simply forgive and forget betrayals that can happen…