Category: loss

  • Guidance for Growth: How to Forgive and Live Without Regrets

    Guidance for Growth: How to Forgive and Live Without Regrets

    “New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings.” ~Lao Tzu Once believed to be conflict-free, our relationship disintegrated on a fateful evening in May 2007, revealing the facade of our supposed happiness. We always said, “We’ll be all right because we never fight.” Well, that belief shattered on my dad’s fifty-fourth birthday. What was supposed…

  • How to Comfort the Grieving Without Saying “Sorry for Your Loss”

    How to Comfort the Grieving Without Saying “Sorry for Your Loss”

    “Words have the power to both destroy and heal. When words are both true and kind, they can change our world.” ~Buddha “I’m sorry for your loss” is a perfectly acceptable response…if I’ve told you I’ve lost my phone. In that instance, I can appreciate the sentiment, empathy, and authenticity of the phrase. It’s my…

  • The Tremendous Pain and Beauty of Letting Things Die

    The Tremendous Pain and Beauty of Letting Things Die

    “The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.” ~Joseph Campbell My husband Jake and I sit in anguish on our beautiful new linen couch, inches away from each other, yet worlds apart. Hours of arguing have left us at another impasse, the stalemate now a decade long. I look around in despair…

  • The Surprising Way a Breakup Can Help Heal Your Heart

    The Surprising Way a Breakup Can Help Heal Your Heart

    “Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart … Who looks outside dreams; who looks inside awakens.” ~Carl Jung There is nothing quite like an unwanted breakup to rip your heart open and bring you face to face with your deepest shadows. At least, that’s how it was for me. Nearly…

  • 8 Things to Remember When You’re at Your Lowest

    8 Things to Remember When You’re at Your Lowest

    “And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, in fact, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in.” ~Haruki Marukami…

  • The Closure in Accepting That They May Never Change

    The Closure in Accepting That They May Never Change

    “One of the hardest things I’ve had to understand is that closure comes from within. Especially difficult if you’ve been betrayed by someone you love because you feel like you gotta let them know the pain they caused, but the peace you seek can only be given to you by you.” ~Bruna Nessif Many years…

  • The Art of Bereavement: A Simple Creative Practice for the Grieving

    The Art of Bereavement: A Simple Creative Practice for the Grieving

    “When you lose someone you love, you don’t learn to live without them…you learn to live with the love they left behind.” ~Anonymous If I look like my best friend just died, that’s because he has. Not the one whom I played with every day growing up and haven’t seen in years, nor the one…

  • I Won’t Let My Losses Break Me: How I’m Choosing Growth

    I Won’t Let My Losses Break Me: How I’m Choosing Growth

    Loss is confronting. But I ask you to please walk beside me while I address this most challenging aspect of life. Losing those we love. While loss is inevitable, it is something that we always think happens to others. Until it happens to us. The last six months I have had a steep learning curve…

  • The Magic of the Mountain: My Perfect Healing Recipe

    The Magic of the Mountain: My Perfect Healing Recipe

    When I woke up this morning, the first thing I did was a guided meditation titled “Cultivating Joy.” In this meditation I was taken back to a time when I felt joy. The first thing that popped into my mind was a time about three weeks ago; my husband, my dog Lily, and I had…

  • How I Cherished Every Beautiful Moment of My Daughter’s Short Life

    How I Cherished Every Beautiful Moment of My Daughter’s Short Life

    In the spring of 2012, I heard this word, “rest.” I realized how horrible I was at it. I wasn’t even sure what it was. Was it extra sleep? Was it not working on Sundays? Shortly after I heard this word, my life began changing. For one reason or another, one by one, the things…