Category: grief

  • 5 Things to Know When an Abusive Parent Dies

    5 Things to Know When an Abusive Parent Dies

    “Family is supposed to be our safe haven. Very often, it’s the place where we find the deepest heartache.” ~Iyanla Vanzant My brother called me at work on a random Tuesday to say that my mother had suddenly died. Powerful emotions of shock and relief ran through my body, like someone rang a gong right…

  • How to Comfort the Grieving Without Saying “Sorry for Your Loss”

    How to Comfort the Grieving Without Saying “Sorry for Your Loss”

    “Words have the power to both destroy and heal. When words are both true and kind, they can change our world.” ~Buddha “I’m sorry for your loss” is a perfectly acceptable response…if I’ve told you I’ve lost my phone. In that instance, I can appreciate the sentiment, empathy, and authenticity of the phrase. It’s my…

  • The Surprising Way a Breakup Can Help Heal Your Heart

    The Surprising Way a Breakup Can Help Heal Your Heart

    “Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart … Who looks outside dreams; who looks inside awakens.” ~Carl Jung There is nothing quite like an unwanted breakup to rip your heart open and bring you face to face with your deepest shadows. At least, that’s how it was for me. Nearly…

  • 8 Things to Remember When You’re at Your Lowest

    8 Things to Remember When You’re at Your Lowest

    “And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, in fact, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in.” ~Haruki Marukami…

  • The Art of Bereavement: A Simple Creative Practice for the Grieving

    The Art of Bereavement: A Simple Creative Practice for the Grieving

    “When you lose someone you love, you don’t learn to live without them…you learn to live with the love they left behind.” ~Anonymous If I look like my best friend just died, that’s because he has. Not the one whom I played with every day growing up and haven’t seen in years, nor the one…

  • I Won’t Let My Losses Break Me: How I’m Choosing Growth

    I Won’t Let My Losses Break Me: How I’m Choosing Growth

    Loss is confronting. But I ask you to please walk beside me while I address this most challenging aspect of life. Losing those we love. While loss is inevitable, it is something that we always think happens to others. Until it happens to us. The last six months I have had a steep learning curve…

  • The Magic of the Mountain: My Perfect Healing Recipe

    The Magic of the Mountain: My Perfect Healing Recipe

    When I woke up this morning, the first thing I did was a guided meditation titled “Cultivating Joy.” In this meditation I was taken back to a time when I felt joy. The first thing that popped into my mind was a time about three weeks ago; my husband, my dog Lily, and I had…

  • How I Cherished Every Beautiful Moment of My Daughter’s Short Life

    How I Cherished Every Beautiful Moment of My Daughter’s Short Life

    In the spring of 2012, I heard this word, “rest.” I realized how horrible I was at it. I wasn’t even sure what it was. Was it extra sleep? Was it not working on Sundays? Shortly after I heard this word, my life began changing. For one reason or another, one by one, the things…

  • How Embracing Grief Can Open Us Up to a Beautiful New Chapter

    How Embracing Grief Can Open Us Up to a Beautiful New Chapter

    “When we are brave enough to tend to our hearts, our messy emotions can teach us how to be free—not free from pain but free from the fear of pain and the barrier it creates to fully living.” ~Kris Carr It’s crazy how you go about your life thinking all is okay, and then BOOM,…