Category: anger

  • What Forgiveness Really Means and Why It’s the Ultimate Freedom

    What Forgiveness Really Means and Why It’s the Ultimate Freedom

    I used to loathe the word “forgiveness.” What it meant to me was that someone could hurt me, lie to me, or even abuse me, say “sorry,” and I was supposed to pretend like nothing happened. If I didn’t, they would say to me, “I thought you were a forgiving person,” or “What? I already…

  • 4 Things You Need to Know About Your Hurting Inner Child

    4 Things You Need to Know About Your Hurting Inner Child

    “She held herself until the sobs of the child inside subsided entirely. I love you, she told herself. It will all be okay.” ~H. Raven Rose The first time I heard about inner child work was in a random article I found on the internet. It caught my attention because I was struggling to develop…

  • How to Let Go of the Past and Forgive

    How to Let Go of the Past and Forgive

    “Forgive others not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.” ~Jonathan Lockwood Huie As a child, I faced constant physical and mental abuse. Several classmates would beat me up in the schoolyard, hitting and kicking me. They also chased me down the streets to my home when school was done for the day.…

  • How to Process Intense Feelings with Mindfulness: 4 Powerful Steps

    How to Process Intense Feelings with Mindfulness: 4 Powerful Steps

    “Feelings come and go, like clouds in the sky. Conscious breathing is my anchor.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh In today’s fast-paced world, it’s easy to find ourselves caught in a whirlwind of intense emotions. Whether it’s the stress of looming deadlines, the anxiety of an uncertain future, or the frustration of unexpected setbacks, intense feelings often…

  • We Cannot Conquer Hate with More Hate (Only with Love)

    We Cannot Conquer Hate with More Hate (Only with Love)

    “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” ~Martin Luther King, Jr. I suspect that most people are victims of hate. Wars happen because of hate. Your mental, emotional, and even physical balance is lost because of hate. Hate destroys joy and happiness.…

  • Why I Love My Anger and How It Can Be a Force for Good

    Why I Love My Anger and How It Can Be a Force for Good

    “Where there is anger, there is always pain underneath.” ~Eckhart Tolle “I don’t know why I’m so angry,” my mother said. It was 3 a.m., and my mother was standing outside my door. I had awoken suddenly to hear feet stomping up and down the hallway on one of my last visits to my childhood…

  • How to Transform Your Relationship by Feeling Your Feelings

    How to Transform Your Relationship by Feeling Your Feelings

    It was late at night, and my husband and I were having an argument about the same subject we’d been arguing about for two decades—cooking and cleaning. The argument seemed to come out of nowhere. We were having a nice evening together, the kids were asleep, we were watching a movie and chatting. And then…

  • How to Tame Your Triggers Around Your Kids

    A parent I work with once asked me, “When will my child stop doing the things that make me absolutely lose it?” I had no choice but to give her the good news and the bad news: The good news is that they will likely eventually grow out of it. The bad news is that…

  • What to Say to an Angry Person Instead of ‘Calm Down’

    Anger is an ironic condition, and in a fit of frustration or rage, the last thing anyone wants to be told is to “calm down.” When someone’s seething, it’s the worst bit of advice, even if it’s the one thing they need to do to process things more clearly. Read more…

  • Use These 3 Skills to Increase Your Emotional Agility

    If you’ve found yourself having an overblown reaction to something relatively small during the past year or so, you’re not alone. We’re all juggling so much—mentally and emotionally—that it can be difficult to continuously have to process everything that comes our way. These can be anything from major threats—like the… Read more…