Author: Malek Fahl

  • How to Stop Prioritizing Everyone and Everything Else at Your Own Expense

    How to Stop Prioritizing Everyone and Everything Else at Your Own Expense

    “Agreeing to things just to keep the peace is actually a trauma response. When you do this you’re disrespecting your boundaries. No more making yourself uncomfortable for others to feel comfortable. You have control now. You run your life. Take up space and use your voice.” ~Dj Love Light I read the text from my…

  • Rethinking Productivity: Less Hustle, More Harmony, More Energy

    Rethinking Productivity: Less Hustle, More Harmony, More Energy

    “The flame that burns twice as bright burns half as long.” ~Lao Tzu I can hear the voices now: “You should be disappointed in yourself” (for not taking the SATs in seventh grade). “Don’t be lazy like [fill in a not-so-studious sibling/cousin]!” “You need to work harder or else you’ll fall behind.” “Always be analyzing,…

  • If You Haven’t Found Your Purpose: How to Feel Good Anyway

    If You Haven’t Found Your Purpose: How to Feel Good Anyway

    “The person who lives life fully, glowing with life’s energy, is the person who lives a successful life.” ~Daisaku Ikeda We’ve all heard the phrase “find your life purpose.” It gets thrown around so much nowadays. Many of us have been in what feels like an eternal quest to find it, especially if we’ve been…

  • How to Start Saying No When You’re Afraid of Disapproval

    How to Start Saying No When You’re Afraid of Disapproval

    “Sometimes what you’re most afraid of doing is the very thing that will set you free.” ~Robert Tew When I say that my need for people to like me has been one of the hidden rulers of my life, I’m not kidding! Ever since I was a kid, I wanted everyone to like me, and…

  • How I Found the Good Within the Difficult

    How I Found the Good Within the Difficult

    “Inner strengths are the supplies you’ve got in your pack as you make your way down the twisting and often hard road of life.” ~Rick Hanson “I had a rough day. Can we talk?” I asked my husband in 2015 after coming home from work. He nodded, and we sat down on the couch. I…

  • How to Wake Up from the Painful Trance of Unworthiness

    How to Wake Up from the Painful Trance of Unworthiness

    “When we experience our lives through this lens of personal insufficiency, we are imprisoned in what I call the trance of unworthiness. Trapped in this trance, we are unable to perceive the truth of who we really are.” ~Tara Brach Breaking free from the trance of unworthiness is a key part of our evolution process,…

  • 4 Tips for Failing Better in Your Spiritual Practice

    4 Tips for Failing Better in Your Spiritual Practice

    “Ever tried, ever failed, no matter. Try again, fail again, fail better.” ~Samuel Beckett I felt an enormous sense of relief when I discovered that he was a total mess! I’m talking about one of the most revered Buddhist monks of our time. I learned this from a short autobiography, A Mountain in Tibet: A…

  • 4 Practical Techniques to Heal from Childhood Trauma

    4 Practical Techniques to Heal from Childhood Trauma

    “It is important for people to know that no matter what lies in their past, they can overcome the dark side and press on to a brighter world.” ~Dave Pelzer, A Child Called “It” I grew up in the shadow of my pathologically narcissistic father. From a very young age, my role in the family…

  • How I Found Purpose When I Lost It at Work

    How I Found Purpose When I Lost It at Work

    “The mystery of human existence lies not in just staying alive, but in finding something to live for.” ~Fyodor Dostoyevsky When I was in my last semester of college in 2016, I got my first paid job working in libraries as a children’s library assistant. I can remember the passion and sense of purpose I…

  • 20 Self-Care Quotes to Keep You Mentally and Emotionally Strong

    20 Self-Care Quotes to Keep You Mentally and Emotionally Strong

    It’s a new week, and that can bring with it a sense of excitement and possibility or a sense of dread about your overwhelming responsibilities. Sometimes for me it’s both. And not just because I have a lot to do, but also because, like most of us, I have a lot going in my head…